When Sue and I got married, the presiding minister Howard Miller (Sue’s uncle), encouraged us to use the traditional Anglican vows for our ceremony. At first, they seemed a bit antiquated, but as we studied them with some small adjustment so that we each spoke the same vows, we found them to be quite meaningful. I will admit I had to look up what it meant to “plithe thee my troth.” We promised to love, honor, and keep each other in sickness and health, for richer for poorer, and to each “keep me unto thee for as long as we both shall live.” We meant these ancient vows then as young people and we mean them now as older adults. That does not mean that there have been no struggles to keep these vows. Like all couples, we have had to overcome obstacles, and had to learn to listen and even forgive. None the less, love has grown through these 56 years of marriage. If we are fortunate, we learn that love is about more than attraction or feelings, however good they may be. It is about commitment. It is about how we act toward each other in marriage, in church, in the world around us. How we act in all our relationships is the most dependable measure of love. The letter of I John understood this deeply. Love is one of its most important themes. It’s words still ring true as it talks about what true love really is in all the aspects. So it speaks, “Little children, let us love one another, for love comes from God. Everyone who loves is born of God and knows God.” I John 4:7